More about Mike
For 25 years, Mike Siver has counseled teens, youth and families based on common themes “Why Did I Do That?”, “What Role Do I Play?”, and "Your Name"
Mike started his counseling career as a counselor in a juvenile rehabilitation program located in Central Florida. Later, Mike formed a great counseling team. While working with his team he gained better knowledge about counseling people with different behaviors.
Mike is now a certified biblical counselor, mastering in addictions and domestic violence, prison reform, and re-entry. He provides anger management, domestic violence, substance abuse, and rehabilitation coaching.
Mike is currently a board member at No Fences Inc. A non-profit (501 c 3) community-based organization with offices in SW Michigan, Texas and Florida. With TheUnited Christian Faith Ministries, he serves as an ordained minister. Also, he works with Forgotten Man Ministries, as a chaplain. Prior to this, he worked with local SW Michigan services for placement of mothers and children from the family of domestic violence situations.
Mike Siver Author & Life Coach
Books by Mike
Mike wrote a series of books which helped families and individuals that were struggling to start making better choices in their life. These books inspire discussion about the topics with quotes/sayings and expanded sections that help the reader to personalize the information in a non-threatening environment. This assists people in entering the discussion without taking a defensive stance.
In his books, Mike does not offer the answers, but an opinion, for discussion and discovery. They are also directed to the general public and, specifically, anyone who feels a need to address themselves and or those around them. He also uses them in groups for discussion on behaviors and attitudes.
Why Did I Do That?
Over time it became clear to Mike there were two common themes and took on a sequence that ran throughout the counseling of the teens and their families. “Why Did I Do That” was generally the first question that first came up. The teens would ask trying to understand why they thought the way they did or the parents would question their responsibility in why their teen behaved the way they did then what in their minds made it ok to do what they are doing.
Mike addressed the second theme that came up "What Role Do I Play" that through counseling is they can no longer blame everyone else for their troubles or problems. Soon the teen begins to understand they are responsible and start asking themselves “What Role Do I Play” in the situation, I am currently in. The teens will learn that even though a lot was going on and they might be having fun with their friends at the time they always had the power to make a different choice. Then learn they made a choice to do, what they did, and they had the same ability to chose not to do what they did.
Deuteronomy 6: 6-7 6“ And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. )You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
What Role Do I Play?
You may start to question, if you do not like what you are doing and you decide to change, you may need some help.
After addressing that question and starting to find some of the answers, the individuals are then asked what role are you going to play in your change. You cannot continue going through life blaming others and never accepting the consequences for your actions and choices.
When we are through with the negative consequences and decided to make a change and clean ourselves up, it may take several attempts. As we all know, when we clean a dirty sponge in a bowl of water, the first thing that happens is the bowl of clean water will become dirty and may have to be changed several times before the sponge is clean enough to use for something positive. Like the young person or adult having a comfort zone just completing a program or moving to a new location does not automatically make them clean. Also like the sponge, depending on how long and how unhealthy the atmosphere, you may have to make several attempts to change your behavior and become clean.
2 Chronicles 15:2 The LORD is with you while you are with Him. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will forsake you.
“If you do not value your name why would anyone else?”
Reading this book enables readers to understand how their name can influence others.
Your Name.
is the next phase of taking responsibility. I have told so many clients the following that hits most of them in the heart.
“If you do not value your name why would anyone else?”
Most of us have been told one time or another “if you don’t stop doing that you will get a bad reputation.” As a young person, we understand that, but our belief is when we stop doing whatever it was that our reputation would change back to the good. What we do not understand and what was never explained to us is how your reputation is attached to your name and that it may stick to your name longer than you can imagine.
You may want to think what does my name stand for. I’m sure you have an opinion of yourself and that is your vision, but if you ask your friends and they are honest you may not like their answers. What we are not taught by our parents or the responsible adults is, think about what you are doing now and what effect it will have on your name and how long will it take to live it down. It’s at this point you should think of some of the people you know and when you hear their names what the first thing that comes to your mind about them. Remember the same thing applies to you when they hear your name.
Psalms 45:17 (NKJV) 17 I will make Your name to be remembered in all generations; Therefore the people shall praise You forever and ever.
Purpose
The uniqueness of Mike's writings generates pointed conversation. Not only is each issue addressed in the books thought-provoking, but people begin to recognize they hear, see and are affected by them on a daily basis. The purpose is to target the young, However, they impact people the adults.
Programs and Applications
Mike uses the book in groups for discussion on behaviors and attitudes. His applicants include:
- Rehabilitation facilities.
- Groups that address beliefs and behaviors.
- Youth groups.
- Church youth groups.
- Young families.
The areas where Mike focuses on are:
- Anger management.
- Domestic violence.
- Substance abuse counseling.
Currently, Mike is running groups with the Veterans Administration using his book's for helpful tools and study guides for Veterans dealing with PTSD. Mike also works closely with Wings of God, here to help transition those who were incarcerated get back into a routine outside.
Mike Siver Author & Life Coach